“If you are continuously trying the same transition tactic and it isn’t working… It isn’t you, it’s the tactic!” Instead, have a little chuckle that your phone successfully distracted you (after all that’s basically what they are designed to do) and ask yourself “what can I do differently next time so that I can successfully transition?” And remember: You probably won’t get it right the first, second or maybe even third time but it’s okay because you are trying! There is one very important thing to do here… laugh about it! Getting upset and mad at ourselves will not help. These are failed transitions: we don’t actually start the task that we intended.
I wrote above about how Adam & I will grab our phones to check something but instead will get distracted by something on our phones. Be mindful of the transition trap and keep in mind what you could instead be saying yes to. The thing is that you will never find the time – you have to make it! Transitions are so tricky because we can get lost in those Netflix shows and get hooked by social media and lose our precious time. Think about the things that you would love to say yes to but just haven’t found the time. It’s time to find that harmony you crave – the joy of missing out”. It’s time for you to go out to dinner with friends, to try that yoga class you’ve been dying to try for months.
Adhd and hyperfocus tv#
At one point she says “I want to encourage you to say no to mindlessly scrolling and say yes to walks together as a family after dinner, to say no to TV binge watching and yes to actual phone calls with friends, to say no to opportunities that don’t fulfill you and say yes to your passion project. I recently read a book called “The Joy of Missing Out” by Tonya Dalton and in her book she talks about prioritizing our time and much, much more! I highly recommend Tonya’s book. Don’t worry, there’s good news! “You (now) know that transitions are hard, so now you can do something to set yourself up for success and make transitions easier!”Įnter the concept of the on & off switch… one of us picks up our phone to check the thing that we wanted to check we get distracted! We get distracted by the new text message that’s popped up on our phone or the recent score in a sports game or the email that we had been waiting for. Do you see that the act of checking our phone is a transition of sorts?! Yes, Adam and I are still in conversation together but one of us are simultaneously starting another task. We wish that they didn’t play such a large role in our lives! At times, while we are in conversation, one of us wants to check something on our phone – like a date in our calendar or the name of a song that we are referring to.
Let me give you an example: my boyfriend, Adam, and I have this ongoing discussion about our phones. That’s a lot to manage!! It’s extremely important for you to know that transitions are hard! It’s also important to note that when we are transitioning from one task to the other, the likelihood of us getting off track and distracted is very high. I was about to write “the space in time right before we finish a task and start a new one”… but here’s the thing: we don’t always finish the first task, do we?! Sometimes, that unfinished task is still lingering in space while we are trying to transition to start a new task. Transitioning is that elusive space in time right before we start a new task.
Adhd and hyperfocus how to#
The session Isabella & I had opened up a whole new door into the realm of hyperfocus! “We discovered that hyperfocus has an on & off switch which we can toggle by adding or removing friction and giving ourselves some perspective.”Īdditionally, there are some key components that we uncovered that need to be considered when reaching for that hyperfocus switch! Isabella is learning how to harness her hyperfocus and you can too!īefore I jump in and explain the on & off switch there is something important that you need to know! When we are entering or exiting any task there is a period of transition. In a session with a client of mine, we discussed the role that hyperfocus plays in her life and our conversation inspired me to write this post (I have her permission to share our discoveries).
Hyperfocus is one of those terms that may see as one of our ADHD superpowers.
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